The converted husband
A guide for women wanting their husbands to become cuck.
Convincing your husband to live the hotwife-cuckold lifestyle can be one of the most rewarding things you’ll ever do together as a couple. The lifestyle will allow you more freedom than you ever imagined, with your husband supportive and approving if you approach it properly. Not only will your husband want to satisfy all your sexual cravings, he will allow you to sleep with whomever you wish, and find his own unique sexual gratification in that process.
This writing may provide some guidance for women on how to find new sexual freedom while remaining happily married, and hopefully to alleviate some of the apprehension that might prevent her from ever trying.
The most common reason a women doesn’t attempt to broach the cuckold lifestyle with her husband is that she thinks he’ll never go for it – perhaps thinking he’s not the type. Your husband may be as manly as men come, but for many men involved in the cuckold-hotwife relationship they find an intensely satisfying, indeed addictive, sexual gratification that emanates from within, which is apart and opposite from his masculinity. Take heart in the fact that underneath all his macho attitude and pride, there is a man that is aroused by the idea of his wife being with another man.
First – change your own outlook
Remember that the cuckold-hotwife lifestyle is like an art form, unique to each individual and couple. For the wife who decides to pursue this with her husband, she must be comfortable with certain skills. Much like an artist with an initial interest in a new art form, she must educate herself. You’re about to go on a journey; you want to be prepared, right?
The world of cuckold-hotwife is of course different from the everyday world of normal marriages. It has customs that are different from everyday married life. You must learn those differences in order to benefit from them.
Start by reading articles and stories that deal with the lifestyle, to familiarize yourself with it. Many women before you have been through it, and have written about their experiences. Also many men have written about it, from the male perspective. Learn from them. Reading stories will acquaint you to the lifestyle. Start by browsing the free areas of websites such as www.hotwifecompendium.com Read some of the Hotwife related erotica available online such as the Kristen Archives at www.asstr.org, or www.literotica.com.
You must begin to think of yourself as a sexually independent being, and change your way of thinking so that your sexual pleasure revolves around YOUR needs, rather than your husbands. Many wives find this difficult, as they have long put their own sexual needs behind the needs of their husband.
Masturbation is a valuable tool. Allow yourself to masturbate, utilizing fantasies and envisioning the erotic life you are about to explore. The goal is to reach a point where you will no longer automatically turn to your husband when sexual urges strike. Instead, you should begin to focus on those fantasies that involve others, eventually reaching a point where you have the confidence to act on your urges. It may take time to begin to think this way. Be patient.
Become more conscious of your appearance. Make it your goal to begin feeling more sexual by dressing more for your new life. Self-awareness and self-image are closely related. When in the role, a hotwife wears sexy, provocative clothing. If you adopt that thinking, you will be surprised how much your outward appearance will begin to shape your inner feelings, and reinforce your new Hotwife attitude.
Wear whatever makes you comfortable at first, but be willing to push your own limits over time. Purchase new attire that fits your idea of a Hotwife, including perhaps new short skirts, lingerie, revealing blouses, perfume, nylons, high-heels, etc. Take the time to pamper yourself, doing your hair and applying makeup daily. Consider going out in public without any underwear, or other privately provocative measures that make you feel sexy even if your changes aren’t evident. The idea is to begin to change the way you feel and the way you see yourself.
By doing this, not only will you be reinforcing your own newfound sexuality, but also you’ll be sending a signal to your husband that you’ve changed. The advantages are many. Your husband will lust for you much more. More importantly, other men will notice. This in turn will make your husbands lust for you increase even more. For any woman this is an obvious boost to our confidence! It also will boost your sexual energy, which you can channel into power in your new relationship.
If the opportunity presents itself, and you’re comfortable, feel free to start flirting. It’s probably been a long time since you’ve flirted with another man, so don’t worry if you need a little practice. It will come back to you, and after awhile you’ll be creating opportunities to flirt. The key is to increase your confidence. Not only will it be very satisfying to know that there are other men out there who are interested in you, but you can also use this to tease your husband.
Once you’ve educated yourself in the lifestyle, and increased your confidence, it’s time to begin in earnest.
As you begin your metamorphosis into a Hotwife, the power in your relationship will be in flux. This uncertainty can be uncomfortable because it’s different, and it’s human nature to have order in our world. You will have doubts. These are completely normal.
Broaching the Subject
You’ll definitely want to let your husband know what’s going on some time. Remember, your husband will find his own pleasure in the new relationship. You only need to break the ice and get him thinking along the lines you want. For example:
Has your husband ever asked how you’d feel about a threesome, swinging, or anything extramarital? Many couples eventually discuss this, and it may be a good place to start. Bring up the subject again, and judge his reaction. His will probably light up and ask about your feelings on the subject. Use that invitation to begin broaching the subject.
Lead into it slowly. At this early stage there is no need to be specific. The only thing you need to be concerned about is the main message: You have become more receptive to the idea of extramarital activity, and have an interest in exploring it.
After you’ve let him know that things are changing, then push his boundaries a little at a time, and follow through. Raise the subject more and more. Show him signs of your changing attitude. Be more assertive. Take control of your own sexual schedule. At this point his desires will begin to respond to your teasing, as he sees you as an independent sexual being. He will see that your sexual satisfaction isn’t necessarily tied to him, as it once was. The possibility of your future involvement with other men, will invoke a jealousy response within him, which will be channeled into raised sexual tensions, and eventually more intense releases for you both.
When you are ready to actually see other men, you may begin to introduce the concept of short-term abstinence, withholding sex from your husband prior to your encounters. Not only will this heighten the eventual sexual experience for you with your new lover, it will also provide a large degree of pent up sexual energy within your husband, eventually to be released only in your presence, and upon his being reunited with you.
Use this concept once you’ve established a baseline of expectations. This will probably take some time for the two of you to find a timeframe that is exciting, yet not intolerable. Most couples enjoy sexual abstinence of several days prior to a planned intimate encounter. After your encounter, and upon reuniting with your husband, be prepared for an intensely intimate experience together.
As the lifestyle becomes more entrenched in your relationship, take advantage and enjoy it to the fullest! Go places and do things you’ve always wanted the freedom to do. Go out with your friends at night. Your husband will not object, as he will maintain a heightened state of sexual awareness in your absence, on the chance that you may actually be seeing another man at some point while you’re gone. And of course you should see other men, whenever you wish. Enjoy your freedom, and exercise it at your whim.
This next concept is especially important to many couples, while not so much to others. It’s up to you to decide how far to go your own lives. This is the concept of withholding intercourse. After adopting the Hotwife-Cuckold life, some couples refrain from intercourse together, with that act being reserved strictly for the wife and her lover (or lovers).
Intercourse equates to both of your pleasures equally, and some couples find that their lifestyle is enhanced if the male is restricted from attaining all of the pleasures that the wife affords her lovers. In other words the wife withholds intercourse, offering that only to men outside her marriage, while offering only alternate forms of release (oral sex or masturbation) to her husband, or perhaps intercourse only on special or certain occasions.
At this point you will have reached a milestone in which you can say you’ve officially reached the Hotwife-Cuckold life. All of your work culminates here. Afterwards, your previous relationship will seem pale in comparison, and neither of you will probably want to go back.
Also remember that with newfound power comes more responsibility. The husband dictates the sexual relationship in most traditional marriages. Now, you are largely responsible for ensuring that your sex lives remain satisfactory. You will have to make more decisions. Remember that your actions, and acts, result not only in your pleasure, but his as well.
With a new Hotwife, his sexual satisfaction will no longer be derived from the simple pursuit of a sex act, but rather the overall satisfaction he enjoys from you being with others. Give him adequate opportunities to be fulfilled, and he will be grateful to you in ways you cannot yet imagine.
Now relax, you’ve made it! Enjoy the perks that the Hotwife life has to offer; a life of hedonistic pleasure. Have your husband take care of you and wait for your return. Enjoy other men at will, or even bring them home. Whatever you choose to do, enjoy the luxury of having the choice to do as you wish, with whom you wish, whenever you wish, while your husband waits for you at home.
I have never regretted my decision to indulge myself in this lifestyle. How about you?