This is more advanced than we are today, but we're heading in this direction (fast!!). I'm excited so I'm researching before hubby gets too far ahead of me. This stuff made a lot of sense to me so I stole it :)
CUCKOLDING YOUR HUBBY!
The cuckold fetish is about anything related to an unfaithful wife. Unfaithful is a controversial term, since the husband is always aware of everything (it's usually HIS idea). The argument is that the wife is having sex with someone besides her husband. So technically I guess it's cheating but like the shirt said how can it be cheating if my husband is watching??? LOL
Cuckold is the fastest growing alternative lifestyle in America. It differs from other fetishes that are connected to an object and its texture, form, smell, etc. Instead, cuckold is entirely psychological. It's the psychology itself that makes a cuckold, more than the actual cuckolding acts themselves.
Cuckolds derive pleasure from the loss of control, and to some extent the humiliation of the situation. They want their wife to assume a more dominant role, take charge, and engage an Alpha male who then assumes the role of primary bed-mate, giving her higher quality sexual experiences than the cuckold can provide. Those higher quality experiences reinvigorate the wife’s libido, reestablishing her sense of sexual well-being, and often her personal self esteem. The wife of a cuckold is called a Cuckoldress, which has a status similar to a sexual Goddess in the eyes of the cuckold, and he reveres everything about her.
Cuckolding usually includes some humiliation and inadequacy, even if they are only perceived or created. These inadequacies often focus on penis size, erection quality, sexual performance, love-making skills, stamina, premature ejaculation, physical strength and more (oh so much more LOL).
Instead of seeking reassurance for these often faux inadequacies, cuckolds thrive on the reinforcement of their :shortcomings: and drawing stimulation from them. A typical case would be an exceptionally hung man pleasing the wife sexually while she expresses repeatedly to the cuckold how much better it feels than having sex with his “tiny wee wee”, or some similar derogatory description.
Men who enjoy cuckolding are usually highly intelligent and require sexual interaction that involves a higher level of mental and visual stimulation. This can be very rewarding for the wife, since a cuckold oriented husband will do almost anything for a woman who satisfies his urges.
Because of the psychological roots, it’s important that the wife be VERY verbal throughout the cuckolding process. Verbal banter, combined with the resulting mental images and other visual stimulation, creates a psychological porridge on which the cuckold thrives.
Women can find it difficult to tell their husband things which they view as traditionally humiliating, especially on subjects such as a man’s penis size or sexual competence. While these are normally valid concerns about hurting his feelings, it’s important to understand that this is exactly where the cuckold husband finds his turn-ons. Verbalizing these points by the wife will actually make the cuckold a more attentive husband, and motivate him to be a better lover.
Strangely, many couples find that the wife’s lover is often equally endowed as the cuckold, or only slightly larger. Yet, because the mental imagery and role establishment is critical, the couple will often assign a pet name for the cuckold or his penis, such as Mr. Little Cock, Mr. Wee-Wee, etc.
During sex with the cuckold the wife should be highly verbal, and frequently raise issues such as her desire for better lovers or men with larger endowment. She should verbalize her expectations for superior experiences with men (or a man) who isn’t shackled by the :shortcomings: of her cuckold husband. Done correctly, a wife in this situation will have a cuckold husband eating out of her hand, by providing the stimulation he craves.
Every cuckolding couple is different. No two have the exact same marriage. The wife should take the time to educate herself on the basics of cuckoldry and the options, and then be able to let her imagination run wild as she molds a unique cuckold relationship that best suits her and her cuckold husband.
You can combine cuckold with swinging, bondage, group play, female domination, and dozens of other fetishes. You can have a regular lover, or see different men. You can play alone with your lovers, or have your cuckold with you at all times. You can allow your cuckold to have sex with you every day or just once a month. You can agree to rules and boundaries, or go with none. Many couples particularly enjoy the taboo factor of interracial sex, The Big Black Cock syndrome is rampant in cuckolding! What you choose is up to you and your cuckold husband (although you have more say than he does).
Here are some tips for wives just learning about cuckolding.
1) Learn to take control. This can take time to master, but the more you do it the easier it will become. Eventually it will become very enjoyable and second nature. Women can rule too!
2) Contrary to what you may read, sex with your cuckold is perfectly fine during times when you’re not seeing other men, provided you keep the cuckold theme burning. However, sex with your cuckold should slow down whenever you’re actively seeing other men (or a man). To secure the psychological impact of the husband’s cuckold status, it’s important to establish him as a secondary sexual provider when you're seeing others. When other men are in the picture, they should be the primary source of your sexual satisfaction. Your cuckold’s involvement should occur primarily AFTER your encounters with other men. When having sex with your cuckold hubby after another man, it’s important to be verbal, reminding him that you prefer the other man, because your cuckold doesn't satisfy for whatever reason (small dick, cums to fast, poor lover).
3) Sex with your cuckold husband should be mostly acts other than intercourse, which you should rarely give. You want to establish that you are the source of his pleasure, and you decide when to dispense that pleasure. This includes timing, frequency, sex acts, etc. Intercourse should be reserved as a special treat. Handjobs, oral and even making your cuck masturbate need to be the normal methods of his release. Penetrative sex should be reserved as a reward, or for special occasions. I find it helpful to use different methods at different times, keeping my cuckold wondering and never letting him know what he to expect.
4) Include regular teasing in your daily routine. Use opportunities to drop hints and teases. Use nudity to tease, letting your cuckold husband see you nude often. Technology provides wonderful tools to keep your cuckold excited, including suggestive texts, emails, pictures, videos, online porn, etc. Make it part of your game.
5) Occasionally have your cuckold wear nothing but a shirt or T-shirt around the house. When passing him, GENTLY “flick”, poke or slap his penis, and comment on his small size. Say aloud how you need men with bigger ones or that you'll never be happy with just that. Make it clear to him that it’s inadequate and couldn’t possibly satisfy you. Compare it to your lovers cock. Hold his penis in your hand, giggle and remind him that you prefer men with “real cocks”.
6) If you know you have an upcoming 'date', be sure to tease your cuckold husband with suggestive comments to let him know you're excited, but don't have sex. Remind him that you’re 'saving yourself' for your lover.
7) The day of your date call your cuckold to the bedroom to undress you and help you prepare. He will love this. Remind him constantly of your excitement. If you shave your pussy before a date have your cuckold do it. Tell him you want it to be smooth for your lover, and so your cuckold can better clean you up after you get home.
8) Have him dry your body after your bath or shower, perfume you and even paint your toenails. Remind him that it’s all to please your lover .
9) Make him help you pick out the outfit and get dressed. Make sure to select sexy underclothes. Dress in extra revealing clothes than you wouldn’t normally wear for your husband. Consider going without panties, telling him these are the things your lover wants you to wear, and you’re doing it for him!
10) When out on your date remember you are in control. Have fun and enjoy a few special hours with your lover, and your cuckold (if he’s present). The importance of your dates cannot be understated as part of the cuckold relationship. Much of it comes down to the dates themselves. Savor the moment and be prepared to tell every detail later (oh how cucks LOVE the details LOL).
11) If your cuckold is present at dinner when on a date, be sure to sit next to your lover and across the table from your cuckold. Make contact under the table. Run your hand up and down your lover's leg. Venture into his crotch if the covering allows. This will get your cuck’s imagination going.
12) After dinner let your cuckold play chauffer and drive you around a little before going to the motel, or home if that's what your plan is. Sit in the back seat and get to know each other. Allow your hands and lips do the talking. This will drive your cuckold wild, and will also get you and lover hot and horny.
13) When you get to the hotel room or bedroom, make your cuckold undress you for your lover. Make it clear to everyone that your cuckold is there only to watch how a «real man» makes love to a woman, and also as a cleanup boy for you (if you’re into that).
14) Whenever your cuckold is watching you make love with someone remember to be extremely verbal. Let your cucky know how good a «real cock» feels inside you, how much bigger it is, how much more you like it than his, how much you love being fucked by someone different, and be sure to make it obvious when you get off (no faking should be needed LOL). Talk about how small and undesirable your cuckold’s small penis is, now that you’re with a man with a «real cock».
15) After you finish, make your cuckold husband go down on you for cleanup. I will leave it to you as to how you go about it (ask or demand). But it’s extremely important to talk to him as he cleans you, telling him how great the sex was, how satisfied you are, and that this is his new role as your cuckold.
16) If your lover will allow it, have your cuckold take pictures or videos. You will be able to use these to get yourself off when you can't have a lover. This really works for us, as I will often go over the pictures or watch a video while my cuckold eats my pussy.
For some fun play ideas, check out this List of Cuckold Ideas.
