Creating the threeway Cuckold relationship
An enjoyable cuckolding environment is one where everyone involved receives what they need from the relationship. For a cuckold couple with a steady bull or lover, this means practicing cuckolding together as a group.
Mostly, this post focuses on those wives who are just starting to experience men outside your marriage with your husband’s encouragement.
In my view, cuckolding is most effective and enjoyable when practiced as a threesome and with all being present sometimes. Wives who primarily meet their boyfriend away from home are missing out on some of the best experiences and benefits in cuckolding.
Some couples new to the sharing lifestyle are initially intimidated by the idea of a semi-steady relationship with a man outside the marriage. Emotionally it’s viewed as very risky, but honestly, if it’s a true risk, a couple shouldn’t even be thinking about doing this.
The reality is that a steady guy or a few reliable companions for the wife is not only less risky in terms of physical and health safety, but is much more rewarding in terms of an overall, fulfilling experience. This regular contact will probably lead to deeper friendships and even some level of emotional connection between the wife and her lover(s). Don’t fear this intimacy - it’s healthy, expected and adds tremendously to the experience for everyone involved.
What if the boyfriend isn’t experienced with cuckold couples?
Even if the boyfriend is aware of the husband’s acquiescence to the wife’s extramarital relationship, many couples simply don’t know how to broach the topic of including the husband more directly. Most guys get skittish about this because they’re worried the husband wants inclusion sexually i.e. a threesome or they are nervous about being watched by the husband. Simply knowing what their concerns are is half the battle, so it’s important to get to the bottom of any objections they might raise.
It’s often up to the wife to initiate this threeway bonding. To do this she needs to create situations for both men to meet and interact. Perhaps instead of meeting her lover out, she should propose having him pick her up at home, so he can be introduced to the husband.
Ladies, invite your lover in for a few minutes before you leave on your date. Let him know beforehand this is what you want. Show excitement and let him know how much the situation turns you on. Kiss him openly in front of your husband. This may all seem puzzling at first, but both men will certainly identify with something that turns you on. This way the boyfriend can also see for himself that your husband has accepted a secondary role and is a willing participant in the relationship.
While out on dates and when talking with your lovers later, you should make a point of discussing your husband and his reactions to your dating; detail how excited your husband gets watching you prepare for your date, for example, or explain how your shared fantasies have led you to this point. The more you discuss the details of this lifestyle with your lovers the more information he’ll have to work with.
Enjoying your boyfriend at home…
Another suggestion is to invite your lover over for dinner at your place before you go out. This can give everyone an hour or more to openly talk and even discuss the lifestyle. The more time the three of you are together the more everyone will become comfortable within their roles.
It’s important that you be openly flirtatious, possibly even intimate, with your lover while your husband is present. Use these times to establish which man is your priority. Perhaps give your husband small tasks to perform while you entertain your lover, such as getting drinks or tell him to hang up your boyfriend’s jacket . This demonstrates that you are the one in control when your boyfriend is present. When he returns, he should find you on your boyfriend’s lap or snuggled up to him on the couch, your hands playfully stroking the bulge of your boyfriend’s cock.
You may even need to be a bit aggressive with an inexperienced guy, even an otherwise dominant one, until he becomes comfortable with the situation and gets his head around the idea of you spurning your husband for him. Do not be bashful during this important phase. I know this can be a challenge for many wives unfamiliar with being the aggressor, but simply think of it as a game and force yourself until it becomes a bit more natural. Once your boyfriend warms up to it all you will no longer be playing that role!
When you’re on dates, think about calling your husband. Encourage your boyfriend to listen as you tease your husband with a description of what’s going on. Perhaps you’re in a restaurant and you tease your husband with the knowledge that your boyfriend’s hand is on your bare thigh, under your skirt, just a couple inches from where he can’t be tonight. Or call your husband from your boyfriend’s place - just imagine what you could tell him.
This all lets your boyfriend come to better understand the dynamics of cuckolding, and also lets him directly see and feel how it turns you on to do it.
As you move further into the relationship, encourage contact between both of your men. Before a date, have your husband call your boyfriend and ask him what outfit he’d like you to wear. Give your husband several options to mention - either whole outfits or even simply ask if he wants you to wear a skirt or a dress. This interaction can prove exciting to all three of you (and it’s fun!).
Eventually, picking you up at home and having dinner with you at home will then lead to making out at home and going to bed without ever leaving the house. Dating out is still recommended, but sometimes you want to go out…and sometimes you just want to stay in. Do it both ways with you lover, in the presence of your husband.
Having sex in front of your husband can be one of the biggest turning points in your relationship with your lover, and in your life if you’ve never done it before. Some couples approach this gradually. At first the husband may just observe the foreplay and fondling, before the wife and lover dismiss the husband, or adjourn to the privacy of a bedroom. In future visits the husband may be directed to help remove bits of the wife’s clothing, or simply watch as she disrobes for her lover.
Graduating to full on sex in front of the husband can be exciting for you the wife, but it can also be intimidating for your boyfriend. One way to overcome this intimidation is to make it clear to your boyfriend is your primary focus and your husband is only an observer. You will have already told your boyfriend that your husband isn’t allowed in the bedroom when he’s there except for those times when you call for him. Combined with previous events leading up to this point, and your bolstering his confidence, your boyfriend should begin to feel much less anxious taking you in your bed with your husband watching.
At this point, you begin to include your husband more by extending the foreplay outside the bedroom; getting naked for your boyfriend sooner, taking foreplay well beyond petting, even engaging in sex in the den, living room, etc., all while your cuckold husband is present.
Once this threshold is passed, your boyfriend will become comfortable in his position and should begin to enjoy asserting himself with you and your husband, and will be the one to call your husband into the bedroom to witness him entering you. This is particularly true if your boyfriend knows that your husband’s access to you sexually has been limited in preference to him, which some couples enjoy.
Good luck and happy loving!